very interesting post @ the The Volokh Conspiracy regarding women’s opinions on the subject of changing one’s name upon marriage.
This issue facinates me. I have always found the issue of naming and names important. who names, who gets named, the process involved, etc. It never occurred to me to change my name when i got married (even though it seemed to occur to everyone else – besides my own parents, to their credit). Many of my friends were even surprised that i wasn’t planning on changing my name, and i in turn was shocked at their surprise. that i had to explain my reasoning, etc. for me it felt like an odd decision to have to justify why i didn’t want to change my name. the main reasoning because, well it’s my bloody name. i have a degree with that name on it. i’ve started a career with that name. i feel it’s part of my identity, my heritage, etc. my husband had to justify to no one why he wasn’t compelled to change his last name to mine.
and to me that’s the issue. it’s significant that a woman is supposed to change her name. why is that? i can only take that to mean that in societal terms my name has less value and i don’t accept that in any other facet of society, so no…i didn’t change my name.
very often the reason for a name change is children and wanting a family to all have the same last name. i’ve seen very creative ways for this to happen without a couple having to unfairly abandon part of their name. my friends spike & jackie adopted a new family name when they got married. if we have children, i hope our child is intelligent enough to understand why both mommy and daddy have names of their own, just as they are individuals with other differences. our child will have a hyphenated version of our two individual names and i also hope that their teachers are smart enough to put two and two together as far as names are concerned. in my opinion, if that’s not the case there’s a bigger issue at hand than my decision to retain my own name.
found via feministe