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Today, Joanna and I met up with a friend to go see Hillary Clinton’s final campaign speech at the National Building Museum. We waited in the hot June sun with hundreds of others snaking around the building until we finally got inside. Fortunately we didn’t have to wait in the heat for too long, though we couldn’t see much from the second floor. We did hear the applause for Terry McAuliffe as he arrived and joked amongst ourselves that perhaps Bill had stopped off for a snack at the Burger King nearby as we watched the clock and waited.

Clinton is great speaker. She certainly did not disappoint today as she managed to address the disappointment of her supporters, the historic nature of her campaign, the need for full inclusion in the Democratic Party, and throw her full support under Barak Obama as the presidential nominee in a concise and eloquent manner.

I won’t lie, I’m genuinely sad that she didn’t get the nomination. I believe she is the best candidate for the job. I am also sad that this election will not send the first woman to the White House in a position other than First Lady.

I am, however, heartened by her speech. In hearing it live, as well as having time to reflect while awaiting her arrival I realized that there are important take-aways from her campaign. These points are especially pertinent to me as a woman. It’s difficult to explain, but I do feel that this election process has exposed the very serious cracks in the foundation our nation was built on. Sexism and racism are still present in our collective psyche. They are easy issues to ignore or try and overlook because they’re difficult to deal with. They’re messy, and personal, and emotional, but in order to really deal with them, one must do it head-on. It requires dialog both internal and external. There is no excuse for either, but I do feel as if sexism is easier to ignore. I heard a pundit on tv once I returned home this evening talking about how the idea of a glass ceiling was a “ridiculous” idea. Granted, the man was on Fox news, but I was still shocked that he said it. Shocked that he thought that was an okay comment to make as if months ago almost every news poll was asking the question if America was ready for a female President. They asked the question if we were ready for a black President too, and frankly I’m just kind of appalled that we’ve got to ask the question, even though it’s clear that we do, because we’re not sure about the answer.

Anyway, it’s a lot to process. Seeing Clinton speak this afternoon was inspiring to me. She was confident and gracious and conceded without being defeatist. I think it’s a good lesson. It got me thinking about what I might do to change my thinking about failures, both small and large, and how to work towards success in my own life. I came up with points made in Clinton’s speech today that I think would be helpful to me.

1. It’s okay to be proud and vocal about your accomplishments.

One of the first comments I heard about the speech today while watching the news was that she talked about herself a lot. My first thought was well… yeah, it was about her campaign. But then I really thought about it – she is able to talk about her own accomplishments without being self-aggrandizing. I think that’s important, especially for women, because I think we’re taught to down-play what we do and wait for someone else to congratulate us for our accomplishments, which ultimately, doesn’t do anyone any good.

2. Don’t stop just because other’s think you should.

People have been advocating that Clinton drop out of the race for months. If she had, we may never have seen just how much support was out there. I think it’s a good lesson in not giving up, trying your best, and having faith in yourself and your goals.

3. Just because you fight hard, doesn’t mean you’re going to win.

I think that sums it up. Along with this though, I think it’s easy to assume that because you didn’t win you weren’t good enough to win. In actuality, that’s not always the case.

4. Be thankful.

Clinton was thankful for the opportunity to run for President, for her supporters, her family and friends, and for the opportunities afforded her. It’s cheesy, but it’s easy to forget to be thankful.

5. Be gracious, exhibit grace.

Throughout the campaign, and even before really, I have always been a little amazed at Clinton’s graciousness. The speech she gave today must have been extraordinarily difficult, but she did it very well. I feel as if the ability to do this is born of a little hardship.

But that’s it. It was a good race. Now, time for a Democrat in the White House.

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So I still haven’t done a proper write up on the Israel trip. I still mean to do it; we’ll see if it happens.¬† We did go visit friends in Vermont¬† last week and had a blast. We took the train, which is a lengthy, but an inexpensive and relaxing trip. We hung out in Burlington and in Island Pond in the NE Kingdom (I kept calling it the magic kingdom -oops.) It was my first time in VT and my first time seeing the businesses my friend has been running in IP and it was a very good time, indeed. Island Pond is so isolated and beautiful and Burlington is crunchy and friendly. I’d happily go back. Perhaps skiing this winter?

Anyway, thanks to all who fed and housed and hung out with us. We’d love to do it again.


after

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So, this year’s Thanksgiving dinner was truly a feast. There was so much food brought to the house – we had a ton of food and all of it was delicious. This picture doesn’t even show all of it.

Just to give you a run down there was: quinoa salad, candied sweet potatoes, 2 kinds of turkey, tofurky, veggie gravy, roasted root veggies, roasted asparagus, squash and sweet potatoes with dried cranberries, stuffing, Gina’s crazy mashed potatoes, corn bread, and green bean casserole. For dessert there were 2 kinds of apple pie, a mocha pecan pie, a banana cream pie and vanilla ice cream.

I played it kinda low-key this year with the tofurky. I even bought the tofurky stuffing in case anyone wanted some without the tofurkey. Considering that Joanna and I were both sick, it was a really good thing that none of the items we made were too taxing. (Joanna was supposed to be my prep cook/slicer/dicer but considering that I was the giver of the cold and she, the recipient, once I saw her crashed out on the couch with oliver, I didn’t have the heart to wake her.) joanna and oliver, asleep The mocha pie, squash and sweet potatoes, tofurkey and root veggies, and asparagus came from our kitchen. I attempted parker house rolls, but sadly they were a complete disaster, that never saw the table. Everything else was brought by friends, and everything was so, so good. There were mountains of leftovers, which we’re about to eat for dinner.

I’ve got recipes to come. I hope everyone had a nice Thanksgiving.

The last few weeks have been a little whirlwind with starting a new job and finally getting back to feeling more normal after my last surgery. I’ve recently gotten a gym membership and have been going off and on for the past three weeks. Even though for the first week and a half I was only walking on the treadmill, I developed a little bruising and would be in so much pain the day after that I had to go visit my plastic surgeon. Apparently all was well, but the internal sutures hadn’t dissolved yet, so were causing all the trouble. My surgeon gave me a refill on my Valium prescription to take as needed. The combination of that and the dissolving sutures (you can seriously tell that they’re slowly going away because they’re poking out of my skin) has allowed me to exercise more often and for a longer period of time, which at this point, feels like a luxury. The next surgery is scheduled for December 20th – looks like I’ll be getting new boobs for Christmas.

This weekend I saw Ani Difranco at the Meyerhoff. It was a great show. I love to see how she adapts her show to the space in which she’s playing. I also got to eat at one of my favorite Top 5, Top 5 restaurants – the Helmand. I haven’t been there in years, but the food is still amazing. Four of us had bread, appetizers, an entree, wine, and Turkish coffee for $30 a person including tip. It’s quite a deal.

pretzel dogSpeaking of food I seem, to have developed a slight addiction to pretzel dogs. If you like tofu dogs, you should really try these little things. They’re quite yummy, and relatively healthy. It’s too bad that I’m not supposed to have a serving of soy more than once a week or I think I’d be eating them all the time… now that I’m thinking about it, maybe it a really good thing I’ve got to limit my soy intake…

I think I’m fighting off a cold, so I’ve got the first pot of vegetable soup of the season on the stove, and I think it’s off to bed with me early tonight.

Tonight a friend of mine brought us a really lovely dinner of tomato basil soup and a zucchini and rice dish. The food was wonderful and I do love the camaraderie of breaking bread together. There is something wonderful and neighborly about sharing a home made meal.

I slept a ton today. I woke up for pain meds around 9, fell back to sleep until about 1 when it was time for more pain meds and then took a nap again from about 6-7:15. I really believe in the restorative powers of rest. Fortunately it’s getting easier for me to get in a comfortable position for sleeping which was really difficult the first few days. I still rely heavily on the pain medication, but I’m definitely improving, which is great.

I ran across this feature on CNN about Lindsay Avner who, at 23, made the decision to have a prophylactic bilateral mastectomy based on her extensive family history of breast cancer. If you can stomach the wide range of comments included with the feature it illustrates the controversy around this procedure and demonstrates how frankly clueless many people are about it. The comments range from making statements that her decision was “paranoid” to others who think that the decision was “…actually quite easy. Not only is she safe from cancer, but now she can have the perfect and paid for breasts.”

I wish I could say that I was surprised or amazed at these responses but quite honestly they simply make me sad. For another human being to simply wave off a gut wrenching decision made in an effort to live a long and healthy life is mind blowing to me. A breast cancer diagnosis at any age is abjectly terrifying and life altering for you, your partner, and your friends and family. Every new doctor appointment, every scan, every excursion under the knife, brings with it the potential for a worse diagnosis, more invasive treatment, more of your previously normal life being ripped from you and replaced with more time spent simply trying to be well. The decision to have reconstruction was anything but easy. I can tell you I would much rather have the natural parts of my less-than-perfect body, because it was mine, because it was real. The lack of genuine thought and feeling behind these kind of statements is unfortunate at the very least and at it’s worst extraordinarily callus.


essentials

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As you may or may not have known, I had surgery again yesterday. This time I did a really bad job of communicating to people what was going on, so if I’ve left you out of the loop, I apologize now. Work has been incredibly busy, however well it’s going, but I’ve also logged close to 50 hrs. a week or more for the last 6 weeks or so. I know that’s normal for some people, and if it is, my hat is off to you. This kind of schedule left me exhausted and feeling as if I had little time to myself, which sucked especially right before surgery.

Anyway, yesterday morning I had a prophylactic, simple mastectomy on my left breast and a tissue expander was placed, just like the last time. Since there is no known cancer in this breast, a sentinel node biopsy wasn’t done. I think this combined with better pain and nausea management left me feeling much better after the surgery and with a far greater range of mobility. Pete and Mark actually came to visit last night at the hospital, which gave Joanna a nice chance at a break from napping on an uncomfortable looking chair in my room, and they were treated to a puke-less evening, which was unexpected.

Making the decision to have a prophylactic mastectomy wasn’t an easy one, and may seem a bit draconian. Getting diagnosed with even low-grade breast cancer at 28, genuinely freaked me out. Especially considering that I had related symptoms at 26. Receiving negative results from my genetic BRCA1 & 2 testing made me more nervous than anything. It meant that I probably wouldn’t need to make any drastic decisions about removing my ovaries, but it did leave me with no reason whatsoever as to why I had breast cancer at such a young age. It made sense to me to try an lower my risk as much as possible, and a mastectomy on the seemingly healthy breast accomplished that. There was actually an interesting article in the NY Times about this process last Sunday.

So now I’m home, and anticipating a whole foods run for dinner tonight. I’m actually feeling pretty good, and considering how I felt last time, I’m surprised by how functional I am.

In other news, it’s been a big week as I turned 30 on Wednesday – eek. Thanks for coming out to the party at Be Bar, and for all the gifts and good wishes. And a special thanks to Allison who trekked all the way in from Chicago for the weekend. It was a real treat having her in town. Among other things, Joanna gave me seasons 3 & 4 of Sex in the City. I bet they’ll be close to finished before the weekend is out… off to it!

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